How to Tell if a Message is Read on POF (2024)

Messaging has become such a big part of our everyday lives. That’s why there’s nothing worse than not receiving a reply – especially on a dating website like Plenty of Fish.

But on such a big platform, messages don’t always end up in the right place. In this article, we’ll explain how to check if other users have read your messages and how to pitch yourself just right.

How to Tell If Your Message Was Read?

The best way to determine if the recipient read your message is whether you received an answer or not. Otherwise, there are many situations where the other member could have seen your message but never responded.

Only upgraded members can use the option “View Our Interaction” to access all details about conversations and likes exchanged.

Why Is My Message Blocked?

Have you ever sent a message, but when you checked, it didn’t go through as normal? Below, we’ll explain some of the reasons why the POF system sometimes blocks your messages.

Copy-Paste Messages

The POF members who use the same template as their first message often get their messages blocked. It happens because the POF system flags them as spam. And if you don’t want this to happen, try to find out more about someone and send them a personalized message.

Spam Messages

If any POF user tries to send links, spam messages, or commercial material, it gets removed from the platform immediately. There’s zero-tolerance towards this kind of content, and the POF team also encourages its members to report messages of this nature.

Short First Messages

Nobody expects POF members to write like Hemingway, but messages along the lines of “hey” or “hey, beautiful” aren’t good conversation starters. Use someone’s name, or comment about their hobbies or recent activities, as it shows them you’ve made an effort.

Blocked Users

Users who persistently text others on POF often get blocked. If your Inbox empties, that can only mean that your correspondence with someone is deleted. In that case, you should stop sending them messages and look for someone else to talk to.

Profile in Quarantine

When your profile gets flagged as inappropriate or problematic, you can’t receive messages. Plus, you can’t add favorites or use the platform without restrictions. In this case, the best course of action is to wait 48 hours and then try to log in again.

Why Do I Have Missing Messages in My Inbox?

Messages might be missing from your Inbox for many reasons. Here are some of the most common ones:

1. The person who sends the message has deleted their account, and all messages were deleted.
2. The sender was deleted from POF due to a violation of Community Guidelines.
3. The message you received expired since it was in your Inbox for more than 30 days.
4. The person who sent you the message blocked you in the meantime, and you can’t access your correspondence anymore.
5. You have deleted your whole Inbox or some messages by accident.

Why Does Nobody Reply Your Messages?

As POF has more than 88 million users, messages can easily get lost in an inbox. Unless you send priority messages, it might happen that you don’t get an answer. If you want to make your profile more visible, you need to streamline your thoughts into a good introductory message.

How to Make Your Message Stand Out?

Writing a good message doesn’t require a lot of talent. When you try to be honest and show genuine interest in others, you’ll catch their attention and get the response you want.

Avoid Generic and Lengthy Messages

In recent years, generic messages flooded all dating platforms. That’s why if you want others to take you seriously, you have to come up with something original. Often, one look at someone’s profile can inspire you to write something simple, yet witty.

End Every Message with a Question

Lengthy messages where you brag about yourself aren’t the best way to get a quick response. On the contrary, it speaks more about you and your personality.

To create message flow, you need to ask questions. Of course, you don’t have to organize a quiz with fifty questions but use them to direct the course of the conversation.

Don’t Make Your Messages Too Provocative

The worst first message is one that makes another person uncomfortable. To avoid insincere compliments and empty phrases, try to learn something about them. Bear in mind that messages with explicit content like nudity aren’t allowed on the platform.

How to Adjust Your Mail Settings?

Members of Plenty of Fish can set limits and decide who can contact them. Here’s how to so:

1. Find the “Edit Profile” option on your profile page.
2. Go to “Mail Settings.”
3. Select the parameters (gender, country, first message size, age, location, and users who can see the profile).

You’ve Got Mail

There’s no better feeling than seeing a new message notification – especially a reply on POF. However, when you go through them and realize that they contain nothing unique or remotely interesting, you feel like giving up.

Once you’ve mastered writing and sending messages, though, online dating won’t be as tiring as before. Do you prefer messaging or actual dating? What’s the funniest message you’ve ever received? Let us know in the comments section below!